There is no winning or losing, madding it or failing. There is only learning and growing. No matter where the learning process may lead you, your time is NOW. No need to wonder where this or that will lead you in the future; or how it will resound in it. Is how it affects your NOW what really matters. If your now is not what gives you happiness, not what you want; change direction. Take that next turn and keep walking, keep learning, keep growing. If it is indeed what makes you happy then go along in that road but continue to learn, grow and allow change to happen.
It’s the idea that our days are numbered what makes us go moment by moment without being aware of what that moment is giving us, teaching us, how it's changing us. But if indeed our days are numbered, then you don’t really have much control over that. So what do you do focusing on a goal 1,5,10 years from NOW, when you have a goal to accomplish at this very moment. LEARN, GROW, SHIFT.
The idea that life can vanish in a blink of an eye should be eye opening and help us understand that what really matters is NOW, this very very instant. What we do with it is VERY important, but what we take from it is EXTREMELY IMPERATIVE. Not for the future but for the NOW itself. Why sacrificing your well state of being NOW expecting a better state of being TOMORROW?
Be aware and understand that everything around you is a direct consequence of who you are, how you perceive yourself and what you do at a conscious and unconscious level. The more consciously aware you become, the path becomes clearer and clearer and the decisions are easier to take; since you are now aware of where that may lead you. Not expecting it will actually lead you there, but knowing it is a possibility you can choose to have if by the moment you get there is still what you want.
How many times have you set yourself a goal and work around it really hard but by the time you get to that point is not exactly as you pictured it. Is not as exciting and fulfilling as you thought it was going to be. Or how many times you have wished for something that used to make you so happy in the past, a person, a toy, an object, a moment; then you work so hard again to get it and by the time you get it doesn’t give you that same feeling it used to give you before. And instead of sitting and “thinking” about the actual reason on why this happens you automatically blame it on the system, that the way things are lately have you so stressed that you can’t enjoy things anymore; and a bunch of other “reasons” that are not specifically related with YOU being the main reason.
We move and as we move we learn, grow and change. At a conscious or unconscious level we DO. Is the unawareness of that, the not paying attention to what the NOW gives us and how affects us what makes us not understand that our “goals” may constantly slightly change to actually fulfill our desires. Is the unawareness of how those little details in life affect us. And how allowing them to teach us and grow with them or not affects us even more.
However, what really makes a change is to allow ourselves to be more consciously aware of what happens inside of us. What we feel. How it makes us feel. Sometimes we focus so much on that goal that we don’t notice or worse, we ignore that the process is making us miserable. But we have this idea that once we get there it will all be worth it. And we do this and say this to ourselves so many times that the brain ends up believing it. And you might even think at the end of it “It was worth it because I made it”. However that feeling of accomplishment slowly disappears and everything draws black in front of your eyes and you don't have a reason why. I should be happy, I worked so hard, what is missing? Then you start panicking and looking on the closest places something that can give you that momentarily feel of fulfilness. That bit of happiness that keeps running out and you need new power sources to feeding it. Instead of actually pursuing what will give you that constant feeling of fulfillment that you should experience.
Acceptance is an important part of feeling fulfilled, feeling happy. Is when you accept yourself for who YOU ARE, love yourself for who YOU ARE and start being aware of what YOU can GIVE rather than what YOU can GET when everything becomes smoother. Not easier, smoother. Because is in that moment where being consciously aware of YOUR reality, YOUR TRUTH, that change actually starts happening. Is at that moment of acceptance that you realize what is making you move forward and what is holding you back.
Waking up, awareness, acceptance are just steps to begin. Sometimes we have to be really strong to accept some facts. We will have to “change” habits, “leave” people we love behind. But this is only hard at the beginning because we are still unconsciously fighting the truth we are trying to accept. Doesn’t mean we don’t accept it, its just that breaking a habit it always takes time, requires effort and constant work. As the time goes by things will go smoother and smoother till you reach a point where you say, I would’ve reacted totally different 5,6,7 month ago. Or this would’ve affected me in a different way.
It is the awakening of our consciousness , the awareness and the constant acceptance of who we are, how we feel, what makes us feel that, that will help us get a lil bit closer to happiness. Happiness is a state that you choose to have for as how long you choose to have it.
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